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My name is Steve Reifman, and I am a National Board Certified elementary school teacher, author, and speaker in Santa Monica, CA.
SteveReifman.com is a resource for elementary school teachers and parents. My mission is to teach the whole child—empowering students to succeed academically, build strong character, learn valuable work habits and social skills, and take charge of their health and wellness.
Since I knew I’d be setting up the classroom during the week before school started, I invited each family to stop by to meet me in person. About ten of my 32 students accepted this offer. With these ten, I was able to learn their names, talk with them briefly, and get a sense of who they were. I greatly enjoyed and appreciated this one-on-one time. In addition, these students were much more relaxed and comfortable on the first day of school.
I then found the previous year’s Kindergarten class pictures in the yearbook. By matching the names on my list to the faces in the yearbook, I learned the names of the rest of my returning students. In addition, I was only expecting two new students, one boy and one girl. So, I quickly learned their names. On the night before school started, I made a simple nametag for each student and arranged the tags on a table by the front door of the classroom.
That next morning I was ready. I stood at the door eager to welcome my new students. While I was praying that none of them had gotten haircuts over the summer, they began to arrive. I greeted all the students by name, handed them a nametag, and invited them to sit down on the rug.
Standing outside on the yard, a number of parents watched the whole thing, wondering how I could possibly know the names of people I had never met. The students, themselves, were equally baffled. I felt fantastic. Before the school year was barely three minutes old, I had created a very favorable first impression and made a major deposit in what well-known author Stephen Covey refers to as the “Emotional Bank Accounts†of my students and parents.
This proactive gesture had set the tone I wanted. For teachers, being proactive increases our credibility, strengthens our voice, and reaffirms our position of leadership. Making the effort to learn the names of my incoming students also created a sense of optimism and positivity among students and their families. Making this effort is especially valuable for children who have never before had successful school experiences. When their teachers communicate in an enthusiastic, upbeat tone, these kids will sense that this year may be different. They will know that they are in a new place with a new attitude, and they will feed off this optimism.
Begin the year with some sort of powerful, dramatic initiative. If you are unable to obtain a class list before the start of the year, do something the first day. Write a short, personalized note to each student, call each parent after school expressing how much you are looking forward to the year ahead, shoot each family an e-mail, or send a postcard through the mail. Just do something. The more novel, the better. A thoughtful gesture on your part will be remembered. As the old saying goes, we only have one chance to make a first impression.
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It’s not enough to keep parents pleased, appeased, or out of our hair. If we’re committed to bringing the best out of our students and teaching the whole child, we need to build and maintain long-term relationships of loyalty, trust, and respect with their parents. Investing the time and effort to work closely with parents throughout the year maximizes our chances of fulfilling our mission and achieving our goals. The following points provide a strong rationale as to why teachers should make parent involvement a top priority.
1. Parents are their children’s first and most important teachers. Though not all teachers are parents, all parents are teachers. As such, they have the greatest impact on a student’s motivation to learn. Parents are usually eager to play a significant role in their children’s education, but they often don’t know how. By establishing caring relationships with parents, we can help them help their children.
2. Consistent communication between the home and school enables parents to reinforce the skills, knowledge, habits, and priorities that we emphasize in class. This fact is especially true in situations where our teaching methods and approaches may differ from the norm and require parent follow-up on a regular basis.
3. It’s important that teachers are aware of students’ strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes, areas of special sensitivity, and any factors at home that are affecting school performance. Parents are in the best position to provide this information and are usually glad do so when asked.
4. Students act, behave, and perform differently when they know that their parents and teachers communicate frequently.
5. Frequent communication earns parents’ confidence, trust, and respect. With open lines of communication, it’s unlikely that feelings of uncertainty, mistrust, and alienation will ever arise. The favorable impression that we create makes problems easier to solve when they occur.
6. When teachers and parents communicate in a respectful manner, we model positive adult interactions for the kids. These occasions serve a pro-social function because many children, unfortunately, don’t often have the opportunity to observe this type of relationship.
7. Parents can become our biggest supporters and most loyal allies. Should a colleague or supervisor ever doubt our methods or question our approach to teaching, these allies will be there to come to our defense.
8. Parents are often valuable classroom resources. The better we know parents, the more we’ll be aware of the various ways in which they can assist the class. This assistance may come in such forms as classroom volunteering, donations of supplies and other materials, technology support, and arranging for special field trips.
9. Forming trusting relationships with parents can reduce the feelings of isolation that so many teachers, especially newer ones, often experience.
The parents of our students are our partners. Commit to making parent involvement a top priority as you begin the next school year. Keeping parents informed and involved on a consistent basis pays huge dividends as we focus on the academic, behavioral, and social needs of our students. In order for us to teach the whole child, we must work with and value the whole family.
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